How to push Past Limiting Beliefs
Limiting beliefs are the blockages of our trauma and childhood. Usually formed from a young age, they can revolve around anything from financial to friendships. Oftentimes, these limiting beliefs are like a horse being tied up to a plastic chair. The horse could easily take off running, and the lightweight plastic lawn chair would drag behind or even break off. The horse is far more powerful than the chair, but it is in his or her mind… the chair is holding the horse back. That’s exactly what a limiting belief does. One of my biggest limiting beliefs that I learned was that God’s design was that all men cheat. I didn’t realize that it would later have me in a pattern of attracting partners who were not the most faithful. In fact, I didn’t even know I had this belief until I worked with Dr. Kathy Tolleson and we dismantled it.
I came to Dr. Kathy early last year to break free from trauma patterns of all kinds. I was having regular panic attacks again and couldn’t figure out what to do to get them under control. After just a few sessions, we realized that there was quite a bit of healing and forgiveness from my childhood I would have to work through. Long story short, one of the patterns I saw early on is that committed men still entertain thoughts, fantasies, and even act on things from time to time, even if they say they love their wives or girlfriends. That’s what was modeled in a variety of places in my upbringing, and I desperately wanted to find a partner who would not be this way. The strange thing is that when you have a limiting belief (or an ungodly belief, as Dr. Kathy calls them), you stay stuck in the cycle of attracting the very thing you do not want.
After referencing a lot of scripture and going through a healing exercise to let it go, forgive those in my past, I realized that there are incredible men in this world who are so aligned with the Lord that they protect their minds differently. They make different choices because they are in God’s word every day. They choose not to entertain imagery, thoughts, or watch seductive things. Instead, they fill their minds with God’s righteousness. Dr. Kathy shared with me that God’s sanctification can override human error. When a man chooses to walk with God daily, he makes aligned decisions, and his thoughts are in alignment, too. I finally felt like there was hope again in my life. For so long, it felt like I couldn’t trust anyone after a few things that happened in the marriages I had. But this healing helped me push past the limiting belief that all men are the same.
Now I have a more aligned belief system with My Creator. God would not send a person to be a part of my romantic world if they were still struggling with surrendering their own desires. I’ve come too far for that, and my Father in heaven cares about me. I can trust that the people God allows into my life (not ones that I push to keep or have chosen without God’s direction) are going to help me prosper and grow. They will not be people of temptation, but of righteousness. That also goes for a partner. If God is blessing me with a partner, he is also equipping the man to have sanctified thoughts and fortified habits. Ah, finally… I could relax into the glory of the Lord and trust that when I come to him, he will provide me discernment and direction. If you are currently struggling with your own direction from God, come join the Authentically Made study ! It will help you form a strong identity in Christ and ground yourself in better values, habits, and mindsets.
