Building a Better Foundation for Life

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This is hands down the most personal post I’ve ever written. One of the benefits of running a blog is that you get to control the message you are putting on the internet. Since 2012, I strived to make this a space to inspire your life in many areas including beauty, style, interior design, travel and recently deeper discussions. Today I enter 30 days on a retreat to address many underlying issues I chose in the past to stuff inside. I am taking time to put my air mask on so that I am a better mother, partner, family member and friend.

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I mentioned on Friday’s post that I deal with panic attacks. After working with a psychiatrist over the past year we decided a full immersion in counseling and behavoiral cognitive therapy was the only way I’d learn to cope properly without the use of medication. If you know me, you know I hardly take anything related to pharmaceutical drugs. For many reasons, I prefer a more hollistic approach to treating health issues for myself. I only take medication if it’s absolutely necessary. To achieve this in regards to my anxiety I have to put in new techniques and strategies in my life.

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I think that this is going to build a foundation for me to live a better life. I’m spending 30 days on myself in a remote retreat location with no access to the internet, a cell phone, email or social media. I know. Crazy huh?! I delegated my personal responsibilities and my family is helping out a lot to fill in during this time. I decided to take a break to get down to the bottom of things. After a few life or death situations and past experiences, I know that learning how to deal with them is going to better me as a person in the long run.

In preparation for time away, I’ve prescheduled 3-4 blog posts a week. I’ve also pre-scheduled social media posts to announce blog posts and additional things I’ve prepared. I encourage you to comment, respond, DM me, etc. I will be checking any and all messages upon my return and love hearing from all of you! Just because it feels one way for a few weeks, I’ll be back and responsive in no time!

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I wanted to share a little more about preparing for a month long trip. There were a lot of things that had to happen from financial to childcare. I want to encourage those of you who need a break to not be afraid to ask for help. A break is good. A break is rejuvinating. A break allows your mind to gain the space it needs to respond appropriately to situations. I read so often that people feel discouraged after scrolling through social media after an hour. So take a break. Take a break from all of it. Line up your responsibilities. Prepare as much as you can. Delegate to willing and able trusted parties and take your break.

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The more I’ve been reflecting upon entering this transition in my life the Psalm that states for us to “Be Still and know that I am God.” comes to mind over and over. I am choosing to be still. To remove myself completely from the public eye, social media and the constant noise of society. No I’m not a hippie, but I do believe the soul craves for us to be still. I believe that it’s impossible to be your highest self and push on the gas pedal constantly. Life needs breathing room and when I feel like I’m suffocating I’m not my truest self. I have no room to be because I’m barely surviving.

So, the break is here. For 30 days I pushing the reset button. I cannot wait to share about this experience when I return. In the meantime, I spent time this month not only preparing blog posts for the duration of my leave but also enhancing my navigation menu on the website. You will now find a variety of sub-categories if you scroll across the top of the site. I created a little video for you here if you are interested in better ways to navigate Three Heel Clicks.

I will leave you all with one note - Listen to your inner voice. Listen to your gut. Listen to your heart. Those are what makes up your soul. Take time to nourish those parts of you so that you can be your truest self. So that you feel at peace even when the world is cycloning around you. Take the time to breathe. Take time for breaks the best way you know how without guilt. Rest your body, rest your mind and rest your soul.

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